finally, some sense:
DXVA Support in MPC Home Cinema
intel is not supported, that's why it didn't work:)
update:
after some long hours of testing stuff, here's what i came up with:
windows media player using its own (microsoft dtv/dvd) video decoder - uses dxva
media player classic home cinema with its own decoder - uses dxva (but choppy video and audio)
cyberlink powerdvd 10 with its own decoder - uses dxva
bsplayer with any of the deocoders above - doesn't use dxva...
any other thoughts? i really don't want to give up on bsplayer:(